Happy Birthday Dad, Miss u a lot

Submitted by dibbutn on Mon, 2011-07-11 22:37 My Gallery

Happy Birthday Dad, missing you a lot each and every moment and love you a lot.

http://youtu.be/fjXwKJFAlpY

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vijaysowmya

Mon, 2011-07-11 22:41

Hi..pushpa.....Dad's always share a special place in our hearts and it is not all possible to forget them till our last breathe...

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ammuchandhini

Mon, 2011-07-11 22:42

Hai push...THERE R THINGS THAT WE DONT WANT BUT HAVE TO ACCEPT, THINGS WE DON'T WANT TO KNOW BUT HAVE TO LEARN, AND PEOPLE WE CANT LIVE WITHOUT BUT HAVE TO LET GO...CHEER UP DEAR....

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dibbutn

Mon, 2011-07-11 22:43

Thanks Sowmy and Rani mam. Rani mam all that you said is true but i can never let go of my dad dear, ever...

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umaraja

Mon, 2011-07-11 22:44

hi da , hope ur dad is always there within u ,

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dibbutn

Mon, 2011-07-11 22:45

Tx Uma dear, he is pa and always will.

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subashini

Mon, 2011-07-11 22:59

pushpa dear, pl come out from those feelings.............It is natural. pl try to accept.we are hear to share your thoughts and feelings.all of us, affected with any this or that.But what can we do?pl feel your dad is always with you, how god is with us.

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smahalakshmi

Mon, 2011-07-11 23:10

Pushpa dear, your dad's blessings will always be there for you. Try to control my dear.

Infact your situation seems to be same like that of mine. My dad passed away just two months before his Bhima Ratha Shanthi (70 years). We wanted to celebrate it in a grand manner. But God has decided that he will not be there for the celebration. Only thing that we did is that we decorated his photo with flowers and garlands on his birthday.

Mahalakshmi

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dibbutn

Mon, 2011-07-11 23:12

Tx Suba dear, i know all of you are always there with me to share my feelings and thoughts dear and thank each one of u for that and that is the reason i feel more free enough to express my thoughts here. I know many of you have gone through the same feelings and almost everyone say, think he is with you. As much as I want to believe that, the truth is he is not, his physical presence means a lot to me than just his thoughts and his photos or the feeling that he is around. I know I am living in a fallacy, wanting him to be here in person, to talk to me, i know i am asking for too much, but I guess only time will heal things as is said in the video link i have provided here.

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ammuchandhini

Mon, 2011-07-11 23:14

Ya i too saw that video link pa...nice one...

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dibbutn

Mon, 2011-07-11 23:22

Tx Maha, incidentally my Dad would have completed 75 years dear. We too had lots of plans for this year's birthday. More so we had Annadanam for the elderly in mind. Right now, we have postponed it to some other time.

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Suguna Murugesan

Mon, 2011-07-11 23:22

hai pushpa....dad unnodave irunthu unnai vaazhthikkondu thaan irukirar..so cheerfulla iru.........suguna murugesan

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Lata

Mon, 2011-07-11 23:38

Wish you a happy b'day, Pushpa's dad! Pushpa, I'm curious...what kind of cake does your dad like? Smile

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vasanthi

Tue, 2011-07-12 01:04

Dear pushpa....try to cheer up dear...your Dad is always with you and protects you dear...try to accept things dear..

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jkmrao

Tue, 2011-07-12 01:44

You know pushpA, your father is a very lucky man. Such a daughter, such a loving one! He is not gone, he resides in your heart, he glows in your mind. He has left the physical world, that is all. But who can take him away from you, from your thoughts, from your memories and from your life? Do not brood, but do what he likes and what he loves. May God give you peace and comfort!

Regards! - mOhana

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rajamma_2

Tue, 2011-07-12 07:35

Pushpa dear,cheer up.
Just want to know whether you were nearer to him and could talk to him at the end. If not and if the end was sudden then you have to do the COMPLETION. Sit in front of His photo in a closed room and cry aloud and talk to him whatever comes into your mind. Once you let out all your fellings then request Him to guide you in future. This completion act will reduce your sorrow to some extend. Time will take care of the rest. And as mOhanaji said do whatever he liked and loved.
rajamma

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julien

Tue, 2011-07-12 07:52

Pushpa mam.... we are know your heart feelings and your family miss U Your dad.... in the 75th year .... your IKOLAM VIEWERS ALL ARE PRAYING FOR YOUR DAD..... adma santhiyadya pray for god....

A.Julien

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subashini

Tue, 2011-07-12 10:59

pupapa, we understand your feelings.but what can we do against god will?"iraval thndhavan ketkindran, adhai illai yendraal avan viduvanaa?uravai solli azhuvadhanallay uyirai meendum tharuvaanaa?".lovely words isn't it?so , pl feel free and accept the truth.you are the person whom your home need must.aren't it?think about your followers life and guide them as your did.The other day your father might felt like this,,he came out from that and brought you up.don't you have such a duty?Nammai kettu adhuvum nadappadhillai.yedhu nadakkiradho adhai naam yetru kondudhaan agavendum.good night dear."Thookkam un kangalai thazhuvattumay, amaidhi un nenjil nilavattumay, andha thookkamum, amaidhiyum, naanaanaal unnai thodarndhiruppen, yendru thunai iruppen."

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subashini

Tue, 2011-07-12 11:00

sorry pushpa for the spelling mistake.

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dibbutn

Tue, 2011-07-12 22:26

Thank you Rajamma maam, JKM sir, and Suba for your words. Rajam maami, I was by my Dad's side when this happened but his death is a total shocker to me. My mom had called me on Tuesday 19th, 2011, telling that my dad had fever but said he was feeling a little bit better. I went home that morning and as I entered my house, I saw my Dad seated at the table having his breakfast, looking a little pale but seemed okay to me, i was a little satisfied to see that he was sitting up and having breakfast. When I entered the house, the first thing he told me was "have breakfast madi"... i said no dad i already had breakfast, he said have one idli and gave me from his plate. Little did i know that would be the last morsel I would have from his hand. He called all my sisters, nephews to come over, told my mom dont cook anything we will order from outside and have food. He told my nephew to buy biryani for all of us and made us all eat together that day. It was like his last supper with us. He had rasam sadam. He was a little weak at the time and I mixed it with my own hands and gave it to him but he vomited that also and after that things got complicated, he had difficulty breathing. My sisters called out to me as i was on the phone. I ran inside and after he vomited, my sisters and mom asked him to go to the hospital but he was adamantly telling no i dont want to go to the hospital, i am fine. After seeing him in that state, I could not hold on to my tears, i knelt down beside his bed and cried out and said "dad pls for my sake cm to the hospital". Seeing the tears in my eyes, my dad too cried and quickly got up and got dressed to go to the hospital, we admitted him to Manipal Hospital. I was by his side always, from the casualty ward to the ICU, i was the only one who visited him in the ICU, my sisters and mom didnt want to see him in that state. My dad, I feel, knew, he was not going to cm back home. For in the casualty, his eyes were teary and he kept telling me wipe my eyes madi but the tears would not stop. He was shifted to ICU and even there whenever i went to see him he was introducing me to the nurses and doctors there. They ventilated him after that because his oxygen saturation was very low. The sight that i am not able to forget was that on Wednesday he showed me by action that he was hungry. This is something i am not able to digest at all. He would always feed anyone who comes to our house (if u read my father's day msg u will know). Every time i went he would signal i am hungry. Sorry I cant continue this.

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ammuchandhini

Wed, 2011-07-13 02:39

Hai da push...now u would've felt better after sharing so much from ur heart.....U r feeling down....hope u get back in the swing of things real soon....I pray for u dear....

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bsindhuja

Wed, 2011-07-13 04:05

Pushpa, whatever people may say, I agree that no feeling can replace the physical presence of the people dearest to us. Time alone can heal these wounds.... And i sincerely hope that your pain is eased soon enough. Take care...
-Sindhuja